Everyone,
I'm an adult child of an alcoholic (ACoA, in recovery parlance) and a fat woman.
I was thinking tonight about how my being fat relates to my being an ACoA. I can't say for sure that the first is directly related to the second, but I do know that I first started to gain weight when my father started drinking and my family began to disintegrate slowly.
Now, I don't pathologize my fat. And I love my body. But I do notice that some of the issues that come with being fat for me--what I perceive in my life as a relative lack of opportunities for emotional intimacy and romance, for instance--do seem to be exacerbated by the baggage of being an ACoA. I find it hard to trust and that seems to make it even more difficult to find emotional connections.
I was wondering whether anyone can relate to any of this, and what your thoughts are. Let's have a conversation.
Thanks.
I'm an adult child of an alcoholic (ACoA, in recovery parlance) and a fat woman.
I was thinking tonight about how my being fat relates to my being an ACoA. I can't say for sure that the first is directly related to the second, but I do know that I first started to gain weight when my father started drinking and my family began to disintegrate slowly.
Now, I don't pathologize my fat. And I love my body. But I do notice that some of the issues that come with being fat for me--what I perceive in my life as a relative lack of opportunities for emotional intimacy and romance, for instance--do seem to be exacerbated by the baggage of being an ACoA. I find it hard to trust and that seems to make it even more difficult to find emotional connections.
I was wondering whether anyone can relate to any of this, and what your thoughts are. Let's have a conversation.
Thanks.
