All right ladies* I have a personal conundrum on which I'm hoping someone can shed some light. If you don't want to read about a fat woman having body/clothing issues, please skip.
I haven't worn a dress in 15 years. Ok, not true, I've worn ONE dress (bridesmaid--traumatic) in 15 years.
And now I"m going someplace where I do feel it's appropriate to wear one.
I don't wear them b/c I don't feel I look attractive in them. And, b/c I don't wear them, the few times I HAVE worn them, I've felt really uncomfortable b/c I don't know HOW to wear them (say, keeping my knees together!).
I guess you'd call me an apple or a brick. I have narrow hips, and am squat and boxy (thanks Polish heritage!).
I'm a hair under 5 ft 4 and my upper half is average, but I have short legs for my height.
I think my legs look giant and white, and I'm not a fan of showing them. As a result, they get no sun, so that's another strike against dropping trou and showing them. I would also not be comfortable wearing a strapless/armless dress.
But I think the greatest hindrance to my feeling comfortable in dresses is my stomach. It's pronounced and it seems like waistlines are confused by it. With pants, I have a tight waist band (I always wear rigid-waisted pants, nothing knit or with elastic) to cinch me in, which I really like and which I find both flattering and comfortable.
I've seen 2 choices in nicer, 'fitted' dresses:
the empire waist, which (b/c of the large, high belly) makes me look pregnant--very pregnant
or the 'tie/belt' thing which really just ... if you don't have a waist, where exactly are you tying that sash? Right around the largest part of the abdomen, like: HERE YOU GO! IF YOU DIDN'T SEE THE GIANT BEACH BALL, YOU DO NOW! It'd be like tying a belt around an ACTUAL APPLE.
Now, for the strap issue, I can and will most likely do a cardigan or bolero or something. I had a short organza (see through) 'jacket' with my bridesmaid dress and at least it was something, but I didn't love it.
But what the fuck do you do with things around your waist if you do not have a waist? If you have no waist at all, and a big belly, aren't you just emphasizing that when you try to put something over your waist? Imagine a pregnant woman with a belt over the largest part of her stomach. That's why pregnant women wear empire waistlines, but that accentuates the belly. And if you're not pregnant, than you don't want that, especially b/c 'empire waist' is kind of a tip off to maternity wear, so now you're *really* fucking yourself.
I need to wear color, not black, as that's not appropriate for my event.
I know I'm not going to look skinny, but I just ... want to get over the 'hump' (which is, I'm sure, as mental as it is physical) of what to do with a big high belly in a dress. We'll leave my bare arms and these big white legs for another thread.
*and I do mean ladies. Thanks in advance.
I haven't worn a dress in 15 years. Ok, not true, I've worn ONE dress (bridesmaid--traumatic) in 15 years.
And now I"m going someplace where I do feel it's appropriate to wear one.
I don't wear them b/c I don't feel I look attractive in them. And, b/c I don't wear them, the few times I HAVE worn them, I've felt really uncomfortable b/c I don't know HOW to wear them (say, keeping my knees together!).
I guess you'd call me an apple or a brick. I have narrow hips, and am squat and boxy (thanks Polish heritage!).
I'm a hair under 5 ft 4 and my upper half is average, but I have short legs for my height.
I think my legs look giant and white, and I'm not a fan of showing them. As a result, they get no sun, so that's another strike against dropping trou and showing them. I would also not be comfortable wearing a strapless/armless dress.
But I think the greatest hindrance to my feeling comfortable in dresses is my stomach. It's pronounced and it seems like waistlines are confused by it. With pants, I have a tight waist band (I always wear rigid-waisted pants, nothing knit or with elastic) to cinch me in, which I really like and which I find both flattering and comfortable.
I've seen 2 choices in nicer, 'fitted' dresses:
the empire waist, which (b/c of the large, high belly) makes me look pregnant--very pregnant
or the 'tie/belt' thing which really just ... if you don't have a waist, where exactly are you tying that sash? Right around the largest part of the abdomen, like: HERE YOU GO! IF YOU DIDN'T SEE THE GIANT BEACH BALL, YOU DO NOW! It'd be like tying a belt around an ACTUAL APPLE.
Now, for the strap issue, I can and will most likely do a cardigan or bolero or something. I had a short organza (see through) 'jacket' with my bridesmaid dress and at least it was something, but I didn't love it.
But what the fuck do you do with things around your waist if you do not have a waist? If you have no waist at all, and a big belly, aren't you just emphasizing that when you try to put something over your waist? Imagine a pregnant woman with a belt over the largest part of her stomach. That's why pregnant women wear empire waistlines, but that accentuates the belly. And if you're not pregnant, than you don't want that, especially b/c 'empire waist' is kind of a tip off to maternity wear, so now you're *really* fucking yourself.
I need to wear color, not black, as that's not appropriate for my event.
I know I'm not going to look skinny, but I just ... want to get over the 'hump' (which is, I'm sure, as mental as it is physical) of what to do with a big high belly in a dress. We'll leave my bare arms and these big white legs for another thread.
*and I do mean ladies. Thanks in advance.
