superodalisque
Well-Known Member
the big fracas and the resulting protest directed at Marie Claire got me thinking. do you feel handicapping and ghettoization play a role in fat prejudice? whenever there is a discussion of fat people it almost always seems to come in terms of what we CANNOT do. according to outsiders we can't seem to be happy healthy or have a significant other. its always seen as some kind of handicap even when it doesn't affect us in any of those ways. i love how many of our dims members and others went out and showed em' that love has no size at the kiss in last week. to all of you who participated, i am SO very proud of you! and thank you!
the negativity displayed by others often makes it easy for us to segregate ourselves into fat ghettos where we feel at least we are trying to find something or someone will finally tell us what we CAN accomplish --sometimes successfully sometimes not so much. is that a good thing or a bad thing? i'm not sure. its good to find your people and get their support. but then becoming too dependent or comfortable within a culture can limit a person, maybe concentrate them on a pathology and make it harder to deal with the outside world especially when it decreases the chance that others will really get to know us for real.
should we be taking the concerns we have about fat prejudice and fat misrepresentation outside more than we do instead of preaching to the choir and ruminating on how bad things seem to be for us? or should it be the goal of the community to branch out and try to influence those who aren't fat more than they do? do we need to show people not in the know the other side of the fat coin more? do we need to be creating more fat integration and fat positivity for public consumption? if you think we do then how should we do it? would we actually begin feeling better within ourselves if we did more work out there?
the negativity displayed by others often makes it easy for us to segregate ourselves into fat ghettos where we feel at least we are trying to find something or someone will finally tell us what we CAN accomplish --sometimes successfully sometimes not so much. is that a good thing or a bad thing? i'm not sure. its good to find your people and get their support. but then becoming too dependent or comfortable within a culture can limit a person, maybe concentrate them on a pathology and make it harder to deal with the outside world especially when it decreases the chance that others will really get to know us for real.
should we be taking the concerns we have about fat prejudice and fat misrepresentation outside more than we do instead of preaching to the choir and ruminating on how bad things seem to be for us? or should it be the goal of the community to branch out and try to influence those who aren't fat more than they do? do we need to show people not in the know the other side of the fat coin more? do we need to be creating more fat integration and fat positivity for public consumption? if you think we do then how should we do it? would we actually begin feeling better within ourselves if we did more work out there?
