*sigh* I've had this site on my favorites for awhile checking in reading posts but I've never touched down & introduced myself.
Hello everybody here at Dimensions Forums. My name is John Lucas & I am a lover & appreciater of the Big Beautiful Woman.
I study as a hobby the self-image issues facing different social groups & often I use the Fat Acceptance movement as an example to other maligned groups that you CAN love yourself AS yourself without change, without altering yourself to someone else's ideals.
I am proud of the progress fat people have made in standing up for their own worth in a society that still demonizes this body type.
Shows like "The Biggest Loser" (appalling title!
) & "Celebrity Fit Club" just add on to the popular notion that fat people or even slightly plump people aren't attractive.
And it pisses me off quite frankly.
I want there to be a world where EVERYBODY has a place at the table. I want EVERYBODY to feel not only accepted but CELEBRATED & DESIRED. All types, all sizes, all shapes, all kinds.
And I'm trying to find tangible solutions to helping overcome these self-image complexes so that they can live life freely & openly. So that they will come out of these self-imposed shells they hide in & go out to meet people without worry or fear of rejection. And to be able to weather any rejections that may come their way STILL secure in their worth & value.
It's not easy though. Not at all.
Even here as much progress as has been made in the Fat Acceptance Movement there are still mountains to climb before the fat people are truly free.
Just read a couple of posts one on a woman who wants to tell a BHM that she REALLY likes him & find him & his form attractive. That she lusts for him & loves him. But he's wary because he's may think she's toying with him or putting him on. He's not used to being seen as attractive as all the plaque of society has weighed him down on his self-image & worth.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5766
The Female Fat Admirer which according to this post is more common than you think.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8510
Read another post with BBW's who are uneasy in their roles as sex symbols to Male Fat Admirers.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8449
Similar to the sentiments of some large-breasted women they don't want to be seen "as a piece of meat" to be drooled over & lusted over.
That they want someone to love them for MORE than their fat & weight.
Ironic, isn't it?
In a society that largely dictates that fat people have no ability to attract we NOW have a situation where fat women feel intruded upon when one lusts after them just like supermodels in the magazines.
The confusing phenomenon is told from the inverse side in the same thread where some said they didn't want someone to tolerate their fat & size for their personality. To date someone "in spite" of their size.
There's more work to be done. They have a point in that they don't want to be used because of their size but then again they may rule out potential matches by not letting the admirer get a little caught up in the excitement.
Who DOESN'T want to be desired & mesmerizing to a mate?
That's a main component of the whole shebang.
The movement's still in growing pains as fat people & their admirers try to strike a balance where one is loved Mind, Body, AND Soul.
To REALLY know that you are not a niche or "alternative" to so-called "real beauty" or "the mainstream" fat people must participate in ALL of the aspects of the dating scene. Everything DOESN'T have to be a long-term relationship or a full meeting of the minds. Sometimes it's just carnal & one-night stands.
When fat people are able to experience comfortably & assuredly what the thinner people in society already do & take for granted that's when the complex is REALLY broken.
To be able to marry & stay together for 50/60 years.
To be able to date one, break up & date another & another if you so choose.
To be able to have random sex with somebody.
To be able to do all of this without mindfulness of your size & weight.
When YOU are in control, that's when you have overcome.
The movement has succeeded in making BBW's sex symbols at least on the internet.
Next is acceptance & freedom from discrimination in the workplace.
Prominent Leading Roles in mass media.
Leadership positions.
Social accomodation toward size in airplane seating & such.
Clothing & its variety.
Activities suited for fatter people.
Less doctor scare tactics about weight & health.
You all are on your way.
It is only a matter of time before fatter people are viewed less as plagues & more like the human beings that we all are.
Where people will stop being closet FA's & it becomes as common as seeing a BHM poster boy or BBW calendar girl on someone's wall. Where fat kids don't have to go through that social struggle being the size they are.
I'm proud & happy of this movement & when I talk to other groups such as flat-chested women, short-heighted men, small-genitaled men, anorexics & any other group that feels ostracized or not desired in society, I use you all as an example of people summoning & pooling their own strength from within & rebelling against what some society said should be.
And they can understand because everybody knows the hell fat people have been through in society. They may have contributed to some of it even.
They will understand what I am trying to do.
And they will know that the true goal is to get EVERYBODY of all types a place at the table where they can feel accepted, desired, & loved.
That's what every human being wants.
That will improve human relations & reduce the tensions between us if we achieve this.
The day the Creator made us different from one another was the day humanity was doomed to suffer this fate. We are NOT all created equal. We are nowhere NEAR the same. We are all different.
It is our job to find the power & beauty in each form & type so that we can stand proud knowing our value to ourselves & to others.
My name is John Lucas, soldier to repair the human mosaic, an admirer of women in general, & dedicated admirer of the Big Beautiful Woman.
Thanks for making through my long-winded ramblings & more to come!
John Lucas
Hello everybody here at Dimensions Forums. My name is John Lucas & I am a lover & appreciater of the Big Beautiful Woman.
I study as a hobby the self-image issues facing different social groups & often I use the Fat Acceptance movement as an example to other maligned groups that you CAN love yourself AS yourself without change, without altering yourself to someone else's ideals.
I am proud of the progress fat people have made in standing up for their own worth in a society that still demonizes this body type.
Shows like "The Biggest Loser" (appalling title!
) & "Celebrity Fit Club" just add on to the popular notion that fat people or even slightly plump people aren't attractive.And it pisses me off quite frankly.
I want there to be a world where EVERYBODY has a place at the table. I want EVERYBODY to feel not only accepted but CELEBRATED & DESIRED. All types, all sizes, all shapes, all kinds.
And I'm trying to find tangible solutions to helping overcome these self-image complexes so that they can live life freely & openly. So that they will come out of these self-imposed shells they hide in & go out to meet people without worry or fear of rejection. And to be able to weather any rejections that may come their way STILL secure in their worth & value.
It's not easy though. Not at all.
Even here as much progress as has been made in the Fat Acceptance Movement there are still mountains to climb before the fat people are truly free.
Just read a couple of posts one on a woman who wants to tell a BHM that she REALLY likes him & find him & his form attractive. That she lusts for him & loves him. But he's wary because he's may think she's toying with him or putting him on. He's not used to being seen as attractive as all the plaque of society has weighed him down on his self-image & worth.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5766
The Female Fat Admirer which according to this post is more common than you think.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8510
Read another post with BBW's who are uneasy in their roles as sex symbols to Male Fat Admirers.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8449
Similar to the sentiments of some large-breasted women they don't want to be seen "as a piece of meat" to be drooled over & lusted over.
That they want someone to love them for MORE than their fat & weight.
Ironic, isn't it?
In a society that largely dictates that fat people have no ability to attract we NOW have a situation where fat women feel intruded upon when one lusts after them just like supermodels in the magazines.
The confusing phenomenon is told from the inverse side in the same thread where some said they didn't want someone to tolerate their fat & size for their personality. To date someone "in spite" of their size.
There's more work to be done. They have a point in that they don't want to be used because of their size but then again they may rule out potential matches by not letting the admirer get a little caught up in the excitement.
Who DOESN'T want to be desired & mesmerizing to a mate?
That's a main component of the whole shebang.
The movement's still in growing pains as fat people & their admirers try to strike a balance where one is loved Mind, Body, AND Soul.
To REALLY know that you are not a niche or "alternative" to so-called "real beauty" or "the mainstream" fat people must participate in ALL of the aspects of the dating scene. Everything DOESN'T have to be a long-term relationship or a full meeting of the minds. Sometimes it's just carnal & one-night stands.
When fat people are able to experience comfortably & assuredly what the thinner people in society already do & take for granted that's when the complex is REALLY broken.
To be able to marry & stay together for 50/60 years.
To be able to date one, break up & date another & another if you so choose.
To be able to have random sex with somebody.
To be able to do all of this without mindfulness of your size & weight.
When YOU are in control, that's when you have overcome.
The movement has succeeded in making BBW's sex symbols at least on the internet.
Next is acceptance & freedom from discrimination in the workplace.
Prominent Leading Roles in mass media.
Leadership positions.
Social accomodation toward size in airplane seating & such.
Clothing & its variety.
Activities suited for fatter people.
Less doctor scare tactics about weight & health.
You all are on your way.
It is only a matter of time before fatter people are viewed less as plagues & more like the human beings that we all are.
Where people will stop being closet FA's & it becomes as common as seeing a BHM poster boy or BBW calendar girl on someone's wall. Where fat kids don't have to go through that social struggle being the size they are.
I'm proud & happy of this movement & when I talk to other groups such as flat-chested women, short-heighted men, small-genitaled men, anorexics & any other group that feels ostracized or not desired in society, I use you all as an example of people summoning & pooling their own strength from within & rebelling against what some society said should be.
And they can understand because everybody knows the hell fat people have been through in society. They may have contributed to some of it even.
They will understand what I am trying to do.
And they will know that the true goal is to get EVERYBODY of all types a place at the table where they can feel accepted, desired, & loved.
That's what every human being wants.
That will improve human relations & reduce the tensions between us if we achieve this.
The day the Creator made us different from one another was the day humanity was doomed to suffer this fate. We are NOT all created equal. We are nowhere NEAR the same. We are all different.
It is our job to find the power & beauty in each form & type so that we can stand proud knowing our value to ourselves & to others.
My name is John Lucas, soldier to repair the human mosaic, an admirer of women in general, & dedicated admirer of the Big Beautiful Woman.
Thanks for making through my long-winded ramblings & more to come!
John Lucas
