Flutterby68
My Cups Runneth Over
I know I haven't been here long, but I've lurked for a while, read a lot, posted some. And I'm even more confused now than when I first came here.
On a friends recommendation, I visited and joined here, because it is specifically for the promotion of fat acceptance. After all, all people regardless of size should be accepted exactly as they are. But we all know that in reality that doesnt happen. So I went to this site, hoping it would help me to feel better about myself.
There is a HUGE difference between fat acceptance and fat GLORIFICATION. By no means do I think that an 800 lb person is any less deserving of being accepted exactly as he/she is, but I also don't think that being an 800 lb person is a laudable goal, either. Personal choice is important, but where are the lines drawn?
ANY discussion of weight loss is discouraged to the point of almost being forbidden. You can talk about your weight fluctuations, and about trying to be as healthy as possible at whatever weight you are, but talking about losing weight is largely prohibited. But if you want to talk about GAINING weight, that's a whole 'nother story. There are instructions on how to gain weight, and posts that talk about people's weight gain progress, etc. but if someone wants to talk about their weight LOSS journey, that's frowned upon, KWIM?
I am all for fat acceptance. I would love to be accepted by others exactly as I am, whether I lose a pound or not. But I find it very difficult to deal with this fat glorification, particularly as it can and often does come at the expense of health, life expectancy, AND the denigration of the average-sized.
Im a minority, it seems. A small sized BBW who not only doesnt want to gain more weight, but doesnt want to be a BBW in the first place. It almost feels like there is no place in the universe for me. In the average-sized world, Im a cow. In the message board world, Im a too-little skinny thing that needs a plate of sandwiches and vat of ice cream. I have to say its very unnerving.
Does anybody else know what I mean, or understand why I feel this way? This is something that has been going through my head for quite a while, and I'm having difficulty getting a mental handle on it.
Help
On a friends recommendation, I visited and joined here, because it is specifically for the promotion of fat acceptance. After all, all people regardless of size should be accepted exactly as they are. But we all know that in reality that doesnt happen. So I went to this site, hoping it would help me to feel better about myself.
There is a HUGE difference between fat acceptance and fat GLORIFICATION. By no means do I think that an 800 lb person is any less deserving of being accepted exactly as he/she is, but I also don't think that being an 800 lb person is a laudable goal, either. Personal choice is important, but where are the lines drawn?
ANY discussion of weight loss is discouraged to the point of almost being forbidden. You can talk about your weight fluctuations, and about trying to be as healthy as possible at whatever weight you are, but talking about losing weight is largely prohibited. But if you want to talk about GAINING weight, that's a whole 'nother story. There are instructions on how to gain weight, and posts that talk about people's weight gain progress, etc. but if someone wants to talk about their weight LOSS journey, that's frowned upon, KWIM?
I am all for fat acceptance. I would love to be accepted by others exactly as I am, whether I lose a pound or not. But I find it very difficult to deal with this fat glorification, particularly as it can and often does come at the expense of health, life expectancy, AND the denigration of the average-sized.
Im a minority, it seems. A small sized BBW who not only doesnt want to gain more weight, but doesnt want to be a BBW in the first place. It almost feels like there is no place in the universe for me. In the average-sized world, Im a cow. In the message board world, Im a too-little skinny thing that needs a plate of sandwiches and vat of ice cream. I have to say its very unnerving.
Does anybody else know what I mean, or understand why I feel this way? This is something that has been going through my head for quite a while, and I'm having difficulty getting a mental handle on it.
Help
