GirlWithoutAPlanet
New Member
Hello all at Dimensions!
I've browsed your forums a few times and I have a few burning questions I'd love for some of you to answer. This post might be wordy but please read!
First, I'll offer a disclaimer. I'm not obese and I don't ever intend to be. HOWEVER, I am mildly overweight and sometimes struggle to keep my weight in check. Currently, I'm 22, 5'3", and 150-160 lbs., US size 8. I'd prefer to be 120-130 and a US 4, which I was a few years back. It is not always SUPER easy for me to keep my weight down. I like to eat- not going to lie- although I avoid stuffing myself. I AM good about fitness and exercise; and in all honesty I tend to believe that while human beings come in a variety of acceptably healthy shapes and sizes, being enormous really can't be that healthy. Given all this though, I am NOT here to judge anybody for their size, come down on them for their choices, or to belittle or abuse anyone. This much is clear.
Now, for my question. I noticed in several threads (particularly one about the reality of dating a BBW) how many women identified factors and situations which indicated to me that their size and weight made life very, very hard. I've seen women here discuss how difficult it is to find cars to accommodate them, how hard it is to go to the movies, and how flying is a downright harrowing and incredibly stressful experience- all due to their size. For many BBWs (SSBBWs, in particular), even going to a restaurant is something that requires meticulous planning in advance. Music festivals and Renn Faires are hard too because of all the walking involved.
Now, there are a multitude of other situations mentioned but I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty right now. But my issue is this: clearly, being this big makes life very difficult. Being an SSBBW, it seems, one can never, on a whim, say "let's go out to eat!" or "let's see this flick!". A joyful, fun event like a music festival becomes a burden when you can't walk. Now, my question is: given all of these difficulties, what is it that inspires or motivates you to remain the size you are or even to gain weight? Do you ever feel like you're missing out? I'm really, genuinely curious and I'm eager to hear your answers. And I reiterate, I'm not here to pass judgment or make anybody feel crappy- I've been on the other end of that stick and it's never fun. Have at it, ladies and gents!
I've browsed your forums a few times and I have a few burning questions I'd love for some of you to answer. This post might be wordy but please read!
First, I'll offer a disclaimer. I'm not obese and I don't ever intend to be. HOWEVER, I am mildly overweight and sometimes struggle to keep my weight in check. Currently, I'm 22, 5'3", and 150-160 lbs., US size 8. I'd prefer to be 120-130 and a US 4, which I was a few years back. It is not always SUPER easy for me to keep my weight down. I like to eat- not going to lie- although I avoid stuffing myself. I AM good about fitness and exercise; and in all honesty I tend to believe that while human beings come in a variety of acceptably healthy shapes and sizes, being enormous really can't be that healthy. Given all this though, I am NOT here to judge anybody for their size, come down on them for their choices, or to belittle or abuse anyone. This much is clear.
Now, for my question. I noticed in several threads (particularly one about the reality of dating a BBW) how many women identified factors and situations which indicated to me that their size and weight made life very, very hard. I've seen women here discuss how difficult it is to find cars to accommodate them, how hard it is to go to the movies, and how flying is a downright harrowing and incredibly stressful experience- all due to their size. For many BBWs (SSBBWs, in particular), even going to a restaurant is something that requires meticulous planning in advance. Music festivals and Renn Faires are hard too because of all the walking involved.
Now, there are a multitude of other situations mentioned but I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty right now. But my issue is this: clearly, being this big makes life very difficult. Being an SSBBW, it seems, one can never, on a whim, say "let's go out to eat!" or "let's see this flick!". A joyful, fun event like a music festival becomes a burden when you can't walk. Now, my question is: given all of these difficulties, what is it that inspires or motivates you to remain the size you are or even to gain weight? Do you ever feel like you're missing out? I'm really, genuinely curious and I'm eager to hear your answers. And I reiterate, I'm not here to pass judgment or make anybody feel crappy- I've been on the other end of that stick and it's never fun. Have at it, ladies and gents!
