Ffancy
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I’d love to here how other people are dealing with similar situations, whether it’s BHM/FFA or BBW/FA.
My boyfriend, who I’ve known for less than 2 years, used to be a very big guy. I’m not sure exactly how big but judging by old pictures I’d say ~450 lbs. Around ten years ago he actually had weight loss surgery and dropped down to around 200 lbs. But after a few years there were life threatening complications and he had to have emergency surgery to reverse the procedure.
In the years since then he has been slowly but steadily putting weight back on. He’s close to 400 lbs now. He’s definitely a foodie but he doesn’t seem to have any binge eating issues. He just really enjoys good food, probably more than a lot of other people. He gets moderate exercise and goes for regular doctor’s checkups.
I know he’s not happy with his weight and every so often he makes an attempt at dieting. It never lasts long. We don’t live together yet so I don’t have much involvement in his food choices.
I’ve told him I believe in absolute body autonomy, that a person can make their own choices for their life, body and health. I will never nag him to lose weight or ask him to gain weight. I’ve told him at other times that I’m attracted to him the way he is, and that I find big guys hot.
I just am not sure how to support him in a way that is true to my absolute adoration of his curves and rolls, especially if he decides to seriously lose weight. I’m afraid he’ll decide to have a second surgery (someone close to him has already done this.)
My boyfriend, who I’ve known for less than 2 years, used to be a very big guy. I’m not sure exactly how big but judging by old pictures I’d say ~450 lbs. Around ten years ago he actually had weight loss surgery and dropped down to around 200 lbs. But after a few years there were life threatening complications and he had to have emergency surgery to reverse the procedure.
In the years since then he has been slowly but steadily putting weight back on. He’s close to 400 lbs now. He’s definitely a foodie but he doesn’t seem to have any binge eating issues. He just really enjoys good food, probably more than a lot of other people. He gets moderate exercise and goes for regular doctor’s checkups.
I know he’s not happy with his weight and every so often he makes an attempt at dieting. It never lasts long. We don’t live together yet so I don’t have much involvement in his food choices.
I’ve told him I believe in absolute body autonomy, that a person can make their own choices for their life, body and health. I will never nag him to lose weight or ask him to gain weight. I’ve told him at other times that I’m attracted to him the way he is, and that I find big guys hot.
I just am not sure how to support him in a way that is true to my absolute adoration of his curves and rolls, especially if he decides to seriously lose weight. I’m afraid he’ll decide to have a second surgery (someone close to him has already done this.)
