MsGreenLantern
Keanu Drakula The Centaur
Okay, so I recently had my one year anniversary with my boyfriend Tom. We knew each other for months before dating as friends, and met through our older siblings who were friends in college. We love each-other's families and have spent every holiday split between them since we met, even before dating. We've lived together for over 6 months already now, and he's planning on buying a house this summer and having me move along with him.
Now, to ME this is even more of a commitment. To ME this is a 'long run' move. Two people who love each other, in their mid-20s moving from a one bedroom apartment into a house together.
Here is the question then.
For Ladies: Do you think one year is too soon to get engaged? And do you think financial stability is a huge concern when a couple is already living together. Things are tight in this economy, but I'd be pleased with a silver band and an elope honestly if men worry about money matters. I guess I see it as more a You+Me=us sort of thing, more than anything.
For the Men: Do young men fear engagement as much as I think they do? I always hear of two types... 1 is the type who wants to pop the question after like a month, 2 is the kind that avoids it like the plague until the woman is ready to give up >.<
I don't want to pressure my SO, but I have basically told him that I hope we marry and I have his kids someday. We've had those 'how many kids' talks and such. Apparently he almost got engaged before in a 6 month relationship, and now is apparently... cautious, though I am the polar opposite of his ex. I am the stable constant devoted versus her off-and-on, hot and cold, cheateryness...
So..engagement!? Am I wanting too soon? Should I back off? Can you really marry fast if you know he's the one? I love stories and advice.
Now, to ME this is even more of a commitment. To ME this is a 'long run' move. Two people who love each other, in their mid-20s moving from a one bedroom apartment into a house together.
Here is the question then.
For Ladies: Do you think one year is too soon to get engaged? And do you think financial stability is a huge concern when a couple is already living together. Things are tight in this economy, but I'd be pleased with a silver band and an elope honestly if men worry about money matters. I guess I see it as more a You+Me=us sort of thing, more than anything.
For the Men: Do young men fear engagement as much as I think they do? I always hear of two types... 1 is the type who wants to pop the question after like a month, 2 is the kind that avoids it like the plague until the woman is ready to give up >.<
I don't want to pressure my SO, but I have basically told him that I hope we marry and I have his kids someday. We've had those 'how many kids' talks and such. Apparently he almost got engaged before in a 6 month relationship, and now is apparently... cautious, though I am the polar opposite of his ex. I am the stable constant devoted versus her off-and-on, hot and cold, cheateryness...
So..engagement!? Am I wanting too soon? Should I back off? Can you really marry fast if you know he's the one? I love stories and advice.
