First of all thank you to the people who replied on my first thread, lots of good advise, and I certainly have a lot of thinking to do.
But I would like to finish the story.
J's BF sent me an e mail the other day saying 3 things. 1 he doesnt care about J and I being friends because he doesnt want to be a controlling boy friend. and 2 he hates me for buying him a shot of 151 cause thats very strong booze. lastley #3 he doesnt want us to sleep in the same bed together. The time after the one he knew about i rolled over and asked J what she thought about us doing this, she said "what he doesnt know wont hurt him." wtf?
anyway like I said this weekend the Bf is away so it may be a good time to have a seriouse talk with J. However on October 12th I am going to have a party at my house. lots of people will be there, including the BF. Now in the past there have been some great parties but some times there is a lot of EMO in the air. Now I guess there have been rumors that have been circling around about this situation, people like to stir the pot. plus just knowing how some people are theres no doubt there will be a lot of talking going on behind my back. When the BF gets drunk he gets very tired and last time went home and left J there, I took care of her.
Now heres where things get worse, there is a girl R. who just got dumped by her BF and keeps hinting that we should hang out more. like the other night we were hanging out in my bed, you know "cause it was cold." anyway She's nice but I dont know if this will work. All of my friends just dont think much of her which worries me. She's still cool to me but she's no J.
The one person I can talk to is D who is my Ex GF, but because we have been such good friends before and after our relationship we have stayed close. But one thing that made it hard to have her around was that she cheated on me, but thats a whole other story. Its hard to replace such a good friend. Wow that sentance made little sence, but if you know her maybe you'd think different. Its too bad when she gets drunk she gets very flirty aswell.
Then the day after the party I am going up to Whistler ( its a mountain town about 2 hours outside Vancouver.) The girl who invited me (K.) was the girl who turned me down when I asked her out in the previouse post. she also invited my best friend and his gf who is also her best friend. Sorry this is hard to follow. She is also acting rather strange.
But I dont think I made it clear why I like J. She initially started to talk about her personal life only when she was drunk. But that stopped long ago, we would spend most of the weekend hanging out, walking around, chilling on the beach, or driving somewhere and I cant think of many times where there was an alkward silence. She doesnt just talk about her problems, hell most of the time we're joking and laughing about who knows what. Its the fact that she is so guarded around everyone else but is able to just be herself around me that makes it special. We dont hhave to try and have a conversation we just do, and talk for hours.
I can ask her for advise too, and sometimes just hearing her voice makes my day. The problem was we weren't hanging out as much since she moved in with her bf cause of the whole guilt thing, and you can tell she missed that.
Basically for once I'm not looking forward to the upcoming weekends because the sh!t may very well hit the fan. If I tell J how I feel this weekend she may not be up for the party which would really suck.
any additional thoughts?
But I would like to finish the story.
J's BF sent me an e mail the other day saying 3 things. 1 he doesnt care about J and I being friends because he doesnt want to be a controlling boy friend. and 2 he hates me for buying him a shot of 151 cause thats very strong booze. lastley #3 he doesnt want us to sleep in the same bed together. The time after the one he knew about i rolled over and asked J what she thought about us doing this, she said "what he doesnt know wont hurt him." wtf?
anyway like I said this weekend the Bf is away so it may be a good time to have a seriouse talk with J. However on October 12th I am going to have a party at my house. lots of people will be there, including the BF. Now in the past there have been some great parties but some times there is a lot of EMO in the air. Now I guess there have been rumors that have been circling around about this situation, people like to stir the pot. plus just knowing how some people are theres no doubt there will be a lot of talking going on behind my back. When the BF gets drunk he gets very tired and last time went home and left J there, I took care of her.
Now heres where things get worse, there is a girl R. who just got dumped by her BF and keeps hinting that we should hang out more. like the other night we were hanging out in my bed, you know "cause it was cold." anyway She's nice but I dont know if this will work. All of my friends just dont think much of her which worries me. She's still cool to me but she's no J.
The one person I can talk to is D who is my Ex GF, but because we have been such good friends before and after our relationship we have stayed close. But one thing that made it hard to have her around was that she cheated on me, but thats a whole other story. Its hard to replace such a good friend. Wow that sentance made little sence, but if you know her maybe you'd think different. Its too bad when she gets drunk she gets very flirty aswell.
Then the day after the party I am going up to Whistler ( its a mountain town about 2 hours outside Vancouver.) The girl who invited me (K.) was the girl who turned me down when I asked her out in the previouse post. she also invited my best friend and his gf who is also her best friend. Sorry this is hard to follow. She is also acting rather strange.
But I dont think I made it clear why I like J. She initially started to talk about her personal life only when she was drunk. But that stopped long ago, we would spend most of the weekend hanging out, walking around, chilling on the beach, or driving somewhere and I cant think of many times where there was an alkward silence. She doesnt just talk about her problems, hell most of the time we're joking and laughing about who knows what. Its the fact that she is so guarded around everyone else but is able to just be herself around me that makes it special. We dont hhave to try and have a conversation we just do, and talk for hours.
I can ask her for advise too, and sometimes just hearing her voice makes my day. The problem was we weren't hanging out as much since she moved in with her bf cause of the whole guilt thing, and you can tell she missed that.
Basically for once I'm not looking forward to the upcoming weekends because the sh!t may very well hit the fan. If I tell J how I feel this weekend she may not be up for the party which would really suck.
any additional thoughts?
