Bananaspills
Well-Known Member
I just wanted to share something here:
I've always been someone who struggled with self esteem issues. I'm so envious of all of the people here who have always loved (or who have reached the point of loving) themselves as they are, it's still a work in progress in my case.
Meeting my wonderful DH has helped immensely, but as I got bigger in the years we've been married, I also grew more self-conscious anad unhappy with myself too.
However, since discovering Dims and lurking here for a couple of months, the following has happened:
I asked for a chair without arms in public. (Translation: Attracted attention to the fact that I didn't fit in the other chair.)
I shopped for clothes thinking I'd look good in them.
I went out, saw people looking at me and thought it might be because they like what I look like.
I sat on my husband's lap!!!
I posted a full body photo of myself on this forum
I hope everyone here understands how wonderful and valuable you are... It's one thing having a relationship with someone who finds you attractive (sorry to admit it but I've always felt like he was the one -wonderful- weirdo who would ever look at me that way.) But this website, with ALL the happy, beautiful, radiant BBWs and ALL the FAs that like them this way... well, it's like a micro-society constantly reinforcing the opposite of what "normal" society usually tells us: "You look good, you are attractive, you don't need to change." And for those of us that need the feedback to build our self-confidence, it is an absolute God-send.
Thank you all... I can't wait to see what this year will bring!
I've always been someone who struggled with self esteem issues. I'm so envious of all of the people here who have always loved (or who have reached the point of loving) themselves as they are, it's still a work in progress in my case.
Meeting my wonderful DH has helped immensely, but as I got bigger in the years we've been married, I also grew more self-conscious anad unhappy with myself too.
However, since discovering Dims and lurking here for a couple of months, the following has happened:
I asked for a chair without arms in public. (Translation: Attracted attention to the fact that I didn't fit in the other chair.)
I shopped for clothes thinking I'd look good in them.
I went out, saw people looking at me and thought it might be because they like what I look like.
I sat on my husband's lap!!!
I posted a full body photo of myself on this forum
I hope everyone here understands how wonderful and valuable you are... It's one thing having a relationship with someone who finds you attractive (sorry to admit it but I've always felt like he was the one -wonderful- weirdo who would ever look at me that way.) But this website, with ALL the happy, beautiful, radiant BBWs and ALL the FAs that like them this way... well, it's like a micro-society constantly reinforcing the opposite of what "normal" society usually tells us: "You look good, you are attractive, you don't need to change." And for those of us that need the feedback to build our self-confidence, it is an absolute God-send.
Thank you all... I can't wait to see what this year will bring!
