IceTeaPrincess
Well-Known Member
Hi there all,
I wanted to ask for any opinions of what would be the best way to handle a size related situation. My older sister is a BBW, and I used to be, but currently am not. When I was larger I tried very hard to be as positive & confident as I could be. I often tried to encourage my less confident sister to love herself & her larger body. These days she is finally showing signs of getting that confidence & is discovering FAs! I am so happy that she is getting happier in herself! But I admit it makes me feel like a bit of a hypocrite cause I just couldn't take "the heat" of being fat anymore and lost weight. But my dilemma is this, when we go places together, family get togethers or what have you, people often make a big deal about how much thinner I am than I used to be in an extremely congratulating, praising way. This would not be such a bad thing cause it is meant to be nice & complimentary, but they do it loudly & thoughtlessly RIGHT IN FRONT of my BBW sister.
From her point of view, these situations might be quite insulting. When it happens it comes so fast that I become a "deer in the headlights" from the praise, so it's hard for me to think of anything I could say that would be appropriate. I'm trying to think of what I could say in these situations that could be thankful for their nice compliments, but defending to my sister and yet not seem like I'm scolding the person praising me. Anybody have any thoughts about what would be the best simple thing to say in such a situation?
I wanted to ask for any opinions of what would be the best way to handle a size related situation. My older sister is a BBW, and I used to be, but currently am not. When I was larger I tried very hard to be as positive & confident as I could be. I often tried to encourage my less confident sister to love herself & her larger body. These days she is finally showing signs of getting that confidence & is discovering FAs! I am so happy that she is getting happier in herself! But I admit it makes me feel like a bit of a hypocrite cause I just couldn't take "the heat" of being fat anymore and lost weight. But my dilemma is this, when we go places together, family get togethers or what have you, people often make a big deal about how much thinner I am than I used to be in an extremely congratulating, praising way. This would not be such a bad thing cause it is meant to be nice & complimentary, but they do it loudly & thoughtlessly RIGHT IN FRONT of my BBW sister.
From her point of view, these situations might be quite insulting. When it happens it comes so fast that I become a "deer in the headlights" from the praise, so it's hard for me to think of anything I could say that would be appropriate. I'm trying to think of what I could say in these situations that could be thankful for their nice compliments, but defending to my sister and yet not seem like I'm scolding the person praising me. Anybody have any thoughts about what would be the best simple thing to say in such a situation?
